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| 1218.1 | I have a 2 yr old like this | ASABET::TRUMPOLT | Liz Trumpolt - ML05-4 - 223-7153 | Mon Nov 18 1991 10:16 | 10 |
| I am going through the same thing with my son Alexander. Alex is only
2 years old, but lately everytime I raise my voice a little he starts
to cry and runs to his Daddy. He does this about once or twice a day.
Nothing has changed in Alex's daycare or other environments (home,
etc). But usually its Daddy who raises his voice at Alex and not Mommy,
and lately it's been me who has to raise my voice to make him stop
doing something that I've told him not to do.
Liz
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| 1218.2 | | NEWPRT::NEWELL_JO | Jodi Newell - Irvine, California | Mon Nov 18 1991 12:40 | 13 |
| Our Michael is 4 years, 2 months and he is currently doing the same
thing. Yesterday for example, he was goofing around and he
stepped on our daughter's sore toe. I asked Michael to apologize
for stepping on Amber's toe and he fell down on the floor and wept.
I think he may have felt he was out of control and just couldn't
handle it. We are going through a tough time with him and his
emotions and lack of control over appropriate language. He is using
a lot of bad language at school and that has had him in the dog house
for a couple of weeks, adding to the stress.
And this too shall pass...
Jodi-
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| 1218.3 | Who's this week's hero? | MCIS5::TRIPP | | Tue Nov 19 1991 12:53 | 11 |
| Just an observation here. Usually when this thing happens it's because
Dad has just yelled, said no etc. In our house Dad is the end-all,
be-all, the Hero! And when dad does any disciplining it's like the
whole world has shattered. (Mom in our house is the meany, and primary
discipliner)
Next week mom will be hero and dad will be chopped liver!
Could this be the case with the kids here?
Lyn
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| 1218.4 | remember this 12 years from now! | HAZMAT::WEIER | Patty, DTN 381-0877 | Mon Nov 25 1991 23:23 | 21 |
| I remember this from Jason .... it seems to me that I read somewhere
that they are feeling extremely bad about disappointing you, and that
they really didn't HEAR you the first 40 bazillion times you told them
to {whatever}, and all they hear is that you're yelling at them, and
all they want to do is make you happy!
How's that for a guilt trip?? Anyway, we made especially sure we had
his attention and had gotten the message through before raising our
voices, and ALSO WARNED him that we were starting to get upset, which
tended to bring them back into this galaxy.
Plus, it's pretty stressful being 3 ..... try an extra hug just for the
heck of it!! Seems to me that being 3 (going from babyhood to
childhood) is a lot like a teenager (going from childhood to
adulthood), and the actions and reactions aren't that different -
complete with obstinance, temper tantrums, holding on, letting go and
general confusion .......
sigh.
Hugs and lots of deep breaths!
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