Conference hydra::dejavu

    
    Kim,
    
    Well, I can't really answer your question about your grandmother trying
    to contact you, but I would guess that she probably isn't.  She just
    *appears* in the dream, and since her appearance horrifies you, why 
    would she keep inflicting this situation on you for three years?  And
    why would she wait a year after her death to begin appearing?  It's
    more likely that she's a dream figure and should be interpreted as
    such.  She could represent your grandmother or your grand *mother* or
    perhaps even the mother(ly) aspect of yourself.
    
    In addition to thinking about your relationship to your grandmother,
    your mother, and yourself, think about what it is that horrifies you.
    Do you think, for example, that your grandmother who has (in the dream)
    returned from the dead wants to take you back with her?  Or do you
    think that when your grandmother died she was not actually dead - and 
    was therefore buried prematurely?  Now, in the light of day, try to
    imagine the dream situation; try to find out what it is that is fright-
    ening you.   Your grandmother appears.  What does she want?  What has
    happened to her?  Think of any other situations in which you've seen
    dead people - perhaps as a child at a funeral - or living people who 
    have frightened you.  Also try to recall any emotionally significant
    events that occurred about the time you started having the dream; and
    each time you dream it, look for a current situation that might have
    triggered the repetition.
    
    If none of the above suggestions work, there are other techniques you
    can try when you're having the dream.
    
    Good luck!
    
    Virginia
    
    
    
    
    

    Could it be that in the dream you get a feeling that you have accepted
    and come to terms with her death and then when she appears to you
    it's a great shock that you know this would be impossible seeing how
    she passed on?
      once in a while I'll have a dream of a relative or friends that have
    passed away then when you see them "alive" in your dreams it gives me
    the creeps. but I always try to tune into what they say or try to
    convey.
         Bill-

Boy, Virginia, you're *good*.  I've thot this before when reading your
responses regarding dreams, but never got around to mentioning it.

z

    Kim,
    
    Since the question of it being *your* mother possibly, did her 
    health condition change in any significant way when her mother
    died?  Can it be you are dealing with coping with this?
    
    justme....jacqui

    
    re: .3
    
    Thanks for the kind words, Lennice.  You've put a big
    smile on my face tonight!
                                  Sincerely,
    
    Virginia
    
    

    
    Thanks for the thoughtful insight.  You have all given me alot to think
    about...it never occured to me that the dreams may have something to
    do with my mother/myself, and not soley my grandmother. I'll work on
    the suggestions you gave me, and see if I can't figure this all out.
    You've brought me one step closer...
    
    Kim