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Conference hydra::dejavu

Title:	Psychic Phenomena
Notice:	Please read note 1.0-1.* before writing
Moderator:	JARETH::PAINTER

Created:	Wed Jan 22 1986
Last Modified:	Tue May 27 1997
Last Successful Update:	Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:	2143
Total number of notes:	41773

1273.0. "Another dream interpretation" by EISYFI::ISLER () Fri Jun 08 1990 10:27

	Hello there all you dream experts.

	A friend of mine had this dream a few days ago. She could not figure 
	out what it means. We thought that some of you out there might have an
	idea. 

	This is how it goes: She runs into her boyfriend in a long hallway,
	kind of dark. She said he looked real refreshed, rested, etc. They 
	start walking together. He is on her right side. But he
	is wearing an old pair of narrow, and pointy white shoes. And he points 
	them out to her. It looks like he is not very comfortable. She doesn't
	recall the contents of it, but they are talking and laughing all this 
	time.
	
	Then the attention goes to his left foot, which is now wearing sandals
	(women's) with strings (like ballet strings) tied. The sandal is very
	tight and narrow on his foot, and not long enough that his toes are 
	sticking out, touching the ground. This sandal is white as well.

	Does anyone have an idea what this could mean?

T.R	Title	User	Date	Lines
1273.1	If the shoe fits, ....	MFGMEM::ROSE	`Tue Jun 12 1990 03:20`	31
	I think that this dream depicts her boyfriend as a cross-dresser. (By "cross-dresser" I mean a man who is heterosexual but who likes to dress up in womens' clothes. As far as I know, a cross-dresser doesn't have a psychological problem - his hormonal development at a very early ago differs from the norm.) Her boyfriend is very refreshed and rested, as one might appear after a good sleep or after a pleasant psychological change. He's probably re- turning to his male lifestyle - the all-the-way (hallway) heterosexual relationship - after a cross-dressing interlude. But he's pointing out correctly (all white/right) that his feats (feet) are being restricted by rejections (shoes/shoos) and by narrow-minded attitudes that treat cross-dressing (the ballet strings) as a scandal (sandal). He's uncom- fortable. He needs more time and more freedom to express the female part of himself. Here's another possibility: her boyfriend has taken on someone else's problem. He puts himself in that person's shoes. The person, a woman, is exasperated - fit-to-be-tied; she has been left or is thinking of leaving. She would like to have more freedom, but there are unaccept- able consequences or strings attached to such a move. Virginia
1273.2	Any more ideas?	EISYFI::ISLER	`Tue Jun 12 1990 08:42`	12
	Hi Virginia, Thanks for your input. However, I know the guy real well, and know that he is not a cross dresser. I think the dream was more symbolic than your first interpretation. The second one sounds it might be possible. I'll relay the message. Any more ideas? Thanks Yasemin
1273.3	Hmmm....	MFGMEM::ROSE	`Thu Jun 14 1990 03:29`	27
	Further ideas.... The most obvious element in this dream seems to be the boyfriend's restrictions; and the most disconcerting element (to me) is that he's laughing and talking all the time the restrictions are causing him discomfort. Why is he taking something so serious so lightly? There's no indication that he's on his way to or from a costume ball, or that he's lost or damaged his shoes and has grabbed the first pair that's available. Perhaps he's just saying - humorously - that he's put up with these restrictions for a long time now and that they're becoming a real drag. There is something in his relationship with a woman that is binding, straight-laced, up-tight, too short, too narrow; he feels grounded. But who or what is restricting him? His present girlfriend? A past girlfriend? His mother? His father? Himself? Family customs? Religious or financial or work-related considerations? Or is it his girlfriend, the dreamer, who is being denied or short-changed or strapped? Virginia