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Conference waylay::singles_chat

Title:A place for gabby single folk
Moderator:PCBUOA::DEWITT
Created:Thu Jan 09 1997
Last Modified:Fri Jun 06 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:69
Total number of notes:5349

46.0. "Kid's eye view of relationships" by BOOKIE::KENYON () Tue Feb 18 1997 11:23

    
    Hi, I got this from a friend of mine.. **thanks Joe, just in case you
    are out there "lurking"... (-; ** this is a kid's eye view of
    relationships... cute stuff...
    
    *********************************************************
In honor of Valentine's Day, here's some interesting perspectives
on what love really is by the ones who know most about it. Kids'
answers when surveyed about love...

How do people in love typically behave?:

> "When a person gets kissed for the first time, they fall
> down and they don't get up for at least an hour."
> Wendy, age 8

Concerning why love happens between two particular people:

> "One of the people has freckles and so he finds somebody
> else who has freckles too."     Andrew, age 6

> "No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has
> something to do with how you smell ...That's why perfume
> and deodorant are so popular."   Mae, age 9

> "I think you're supposed to get shot with an arrow or
> something, but the rest of it isn't supposed to be so
> painful."     Manuel, age 8

On what falling in love is like:

> "Like an avalanche where you have to run for your life."
> John, age 9

> "If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I
> don't want to do it.  It takes too long."     Glenn, age 7

On the role of beauty and handsomeness in love:

> "If you want to be loved by somebody who isn't already in
> your family, it doesn't hurt to be beautiful."  Anita C.,
> age 8

> "It isn't always just how you look.  Look at me.  I'm
> handsome like anything and I haven't got anybody to
> marry me yet."      Brian, age 7

> "Beauty is skin deep.  But how rich you are can last a long
> time."  Christine, age 9

Reflections on the nature of love:

> "Love is the most important thing in the world, but
> baseball is pretty good too."      Greg, age 8

How do people in love typically behave?:

> "Mooshy ... like puppy dogs ... except puppy dogs don't
> wag their tails near as much."      Arnold, age 10

> "All of a sudden, the people get movie-fever so they can sit
> together in the dark."      Sherm, age 8

Concerning why lovers often hold hands:

> "They want to make sure their rings don't fall off because
> they paid good money for them."      Gavin, age 8

> "They are just practicing for when they might have to walk
> down the aisle someday and do the holy matchimony
> thing."      John, age 9

Confidential opinions about love:

> "I'm in favor of love as long as it doesn't happen when
> 'Dinosaurs' is on television."      Jill, age 6

> "Love is foolish ... but I still might try it sometime."
> Floyd, age 9

> "Yesterday I kissed a girl in a private place ... We were
> behind a tree." Carey, age 7

> "Love will find you, even if you are trying to hide from it.  I
> been trying to hide from it since I was five, but the girls
> keep finding me." Dave, age 8

> "I'm not rushing into being in love.  I'm finding fourth
> grade hard enough." Regina, age 10

The personal qualities you need to have in order to be a
good lover:

> "Sensitivity don't hurt."      Robbie, age 8

> "One of you should know how to write a check.  Because,
> even if you have ton of love, there is still going to be a lot
> of bills."      Ava, age 8

Some surefire ways to make a person fall in love with you:

> "Tell them that you own a whole bunch of candy stores."
>  Del, age 6

> "Shake your hips and hope for the best."      Camille, age 9

> "Yell out that you love them at the top of your lungs ...
> and don't worry if their parents are right there."
> Manuel, age 8

> "Don't do things like have smelly, green sneakers.  You
> might get attention but attention ain't the same thing as
> love."      Alonzo, age 9

> "One way is to take the girl out to eat.  Make sure it's
> something she likes to eat.  French fries usually works for
> me."      Bart, age 9

How can you tell if two adults eating dinner at a
restaurant are in love?:

> "Just see if the man picks up the check.  That's how you
> can tell if he's in love."      Bobby, age 9

> "Lovers will just be staring at each other and their food will
> get cold...Other people care more about the food."      Bart,
> age 9

> "Romantic adults usually are all dressed up, so if they are
> just wearing jeans it might mean they used to go out or
> they just broke up."      Sarah, age 9

> "See if the man has lipstick on his face."      Sandra, age 7

> "It's love if they order one of those desserts that are on fire.
> They like to order those because it's just like how their
> hearts are --- on fire." Christine, age 9

What most people are thinking when they say "I love you":

> "The person is thinking: Yeah, I really do love him.  But I
> hope he showers least once a day."      Michelle, age 9

> "Some lovers might be real nervous, so they are glad that
> they finally got it out and said it and now they can go eat."
> Dick, age 7

How was kissing invented?:

> "I know one reason that kissing was created. It makes you
> feel warm all over and they didn't always have electric heat
> or fireplaces or even stoves in their houses."      Gina, age 8

How a person learns to kiss:

> "You can have a big rehearsal with your Barbie and Ken
> dolls."      Julia, age 7

> "You learn it right on the spot when the gooshy feelings get
> the best of you."      Brian, age 7

> "It might help to watch soap operas all day."   Carin, age 9

When is it okay to kiss someone?:

> "When they're rich."      Pam, age 7

> "It's never okay to kiss a boy.  They always slobber all over
> you ...That's why I stopped doing it."      Tammy, age 7

> "If it's your mother, you can kiss her anytime.  But if it's a
> new person, you have to ask permission."      Roger, age 6

> "I look at kissing like this:  Kissing is fine if you like it, but
> it's a free country and nobody should be forced to do it."

How to make love endure:

> "Spend most of your time loving instead of going to work."
> Dick, age 7

> "Don't forget your wife's name ... That will mess up the
> love." Erin, age 8

> "Be a good kisser.  It might make your wife forget that you
> never take out the trash."      Dave, age 8

> "Don't say you love somebody and then change your mind
> ... Love isn't like picking what movie you want to watch."
> Natalie, age 9
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46.1CuteWRKSYS::BROWERTue Feb 18 1997 11:315
         Thanks Kathleen that was cute... Oh the world can look so sweet
    and innocent through the eyes of children..
    
    
    bob
46.2first kiss... (-;BOOKIE::KENYONTue Feb 18 1997 11:364
    I like the one that said "when a person gets kissed for the first time,
    they fall down, and don't get up for at least an hour"... (-;
46.3CBROWN::JACQUES_CACrazy ways are evidentTue Feb 18 1997 11:384
    I loved it all :-)  Thanks Kathleen.  Some guidelines I
    think I'll start using as I foray into the SINGLES world!  ;->
    
    						cj *->
46.4PCBUOA::DEWITTonly in dreams...Tue Feb 18 1997 11:507
    	Extracted it to read later - first glance its priceless - thanks
    Kathleen.
    
    	Yeah the falling down comment was a good one - and I hope its not
    true :-)                                          
    
    joyce-who-thinks-she-remembers-what-kissing-is :-)
46.5DANGER::ASKETHBeware of Greeks bearing gifts...Tue Feb 18 1997 12:536
> "Love is the most important thing in the world, but
> baseball is pretty good too."      Greg, age 8

Hey, Daryll!!  You have another son that you haven't told us about???

;-P
46.6DANGER::ASKETHBeware of Greeks bearing gifts...Tue Feb 18 1997 12:556
Thanks for putting that in Kathleen - it's great!!!

I was gonna put a note in the venting note venting about my #$%#$%@!!! morning
but I feel better now.  ;-)

B
46.7PCBUOA::DEWITTonly in dreams...Tue Feb 18 1997 13:024
    	I've been cracking up over the quotes - great smile break - thanks
    again Kathleen!
    
    joyce
46.8greatORION::CHARPENTIERTue Feb 18 1997 13:034
    Those quotes are wonderful.
    Made my day!
    
    Dolores
46.9SALEM::DODASomeday, someway....Tue Feb 18 1997 13:1714
     <<< Note 46.5 by DANGER::ASKETH "Beware of Greeks bearing gifts..." >>>

> "Love is the most important thing in the world, but
> baseball is pretty good too."      Greg, age 8

>>Hey, Daryll!!  You have another son that you haven't told us about???

Nope, but this Greg kid is obviously gifted.

14 days til I land in Ft. Myers for my annual spring training 
trip. Last year 8 games in 5 days. We're going to cut down a 
little this year....

daryll
46.10AXEL::FOLEYhttp://axel.zko.dec.comTue Feb 18 1997 13:2742

	Here's an actual story that happened to me last fall ('96).

	My nephew JJ and I were driving in my truck from my sisters
	to my Moms place. Out of the blue, the following discussion
	starts: (mind you, he's only 8)

	JJ: Uncle Mike?
	me: Yea Jay?
	JJ: When are you going to settle down?
	me: (dumbfounded) Huh? Did your Mom put you up to this?
	JJ: No.
	me: You came up with this all on your own?
	JJ: Yea.. So when are you going to settle down?
	me: Why?
	JJ: I want cousins. I never get to see Uncle Liam's kids, but
	    if you had kids I'd get to see them all the time. So, when
	    are you going to settle down?
	me: It's not as easy as that Dude. I haven't met the right person
	    yet. 
	JJ: Well, you're going out with someone tomorrow, right? What
	    about her?
	me: Jay, we're just going out for lunch, not to make babies. It's
	    not that easy!

	At this point, I'm gobsmacked.. I try to explain to him the
	math involved. Even if I met someone today, it would be a couple
	of years before kids and then many years after that before he
	could hang with them and play with them, and by that time he'd
	be a teenager and have no time for playing with little kids. That
	seemed to pacify him, but I'll tell you, it's an eye opening
	experience to have someone who's diapers you used to change not
	that long ago start putting you on the spot about your "status".

	He's an awesome kid.. I wish I had one just like him.

								mike

	P.S. JJ is short for John James. Everyone calls him Jay. I've
	called him "Dude" since he was a little one. His sister Mollie
	used to call him "Dude" before she could say "JJ". Way cute. :)
46.11BOOKIE::KENYONTue Feb 18 1997 13:493
    "gobsmacked"?   I'd love a definition... (-;
46.12EDWIN::WAUGAMANTue Feb 18 1997 14:0412
>> "Love is the most important thing in the world, but
>> baseball is pretty good too."      Greg, age 8
>
> Hey, Daryll!!  You have another son that you haven't told us about???
    
    Whoa, I didn't read that far down... the kid obviously has his 
    priorities swapped (as usual, I'll be watching, coaching and playing
    again come spring).
    
    glenn
46.13PCBUOA::DEWITTonly in dreams...Tue Feb 18 1997 14:094
    Well Glenn - *read the whole thing!  Its worth it - I extracted it and
    read it when I had time!
    
    joyce
46.14AXEL::FOLEYhttp://axel.zko.dec.comTue Feb 18 1997 16:1212
RE: .11

	Speechless, flabbergasted.. 

	Gob is slang for mouth.. (as in "Shut yer gob!" or "You're a 
	bloody gobshite") and I suspect that's where gobsmacked and
	gobshite come from. Gobsmacked being speechless and gobshite
	being someone who is full of it.

	There's lots of sailing references in the dictionary around it. 
	Gob being short for sailor and smack being short for sailing ship.
46.15BIGQ::MARCHANDWed Feb 19 1997 08:2631
    
       Kids DO say the darndest things! I saw that list before but still
    got a kick out of rereading it. Never know what a kid perception is.
    
       My grandson is constantly coming up with cute little 'insights' that
    he has. He'll be 7 years old in April.
    
       When he was about 4 1/2 (and this was PRIOR To my even telling anyone
    that I was planning on filing a divorce) he filled me on what he was
    thinking... It went like this.
    
       We were walking past my bedroom to go outside and he says.....
    
        "Meme (French version of grandma), we need to talk. Let's go
    in your bedroom and you sit down." I sat down on the bed and he
    proceeded to go over to my bureau and take some makeup and bring
    it over to me. He then said. "Meme, you need to put some makeup on
    your face and make yourself real pretty so you can find yourself a
    boyfriend."
    
        That's when I said. "But Tommy, I'm married to your grandpa and
    can't go out with boyfriends." His response was.... "But pepe's
    not a good boyfriend for you, you need a good man in your life. I
    would get you one but I don't have sixty dollars!" 
    
       I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. Well, at least if I'm
    out 'shopping' for a new boyfriend I know I'll have to have sixty
    dollars with me.
    
          rosie
46.16DANGER::ASKETHBeware of Greeks bearing gifts...Wed Feb 19 1997 09:513
I love your Tommy stories Rosie!  He's precious!

B
46.17BIGQ::MARCHANDWed Feb 19 1997 10:1617
    
      Thanks B,
    
       In fact I have one from Valentines Day.
    
       I walked into the house with one of those big hershey's kisses
    for him in a bag. I said to him. "Guess what Tommy! Seeing that it's
    Valentines Day, I'm going to give you a giant kiss!" He says......
    
       "Oh no! Please don't do that, it'll make me puke!" 
    
       I didn't know whether to laugh or cry then either. I pulled out the
    hershey kiss and his eyes just lit up! I then said. "Hey wait a minute!
    What do you mean when you say a kiss from me will make you puke!" He
    then told me that he was too young to kiss girls. Wait until he's 16!
    
         Rosie
46.18Beware of 8-year-olds bearing questions!STAR::DIPIRROWed Feb 19 1997 10:2617
    	Well, Mike, you just never know what's going to come out of the
    mouth of an 8-year-old. A couple of years ago, when my youngest was 8,
    he kept saying he wanted to ask me something. He seemed concerned about
    it, whatever it was. When we were alone, he said, "Daddy, what's a dick
    massage?" Too bad someone didn't catch my expression on film! I said,
    "OK, Matthew, let's back up a little...Where did you hear this?" It
    turned out that Matthew liked this little girl in his class. He
    mentioned it to another boy in the class, who told him that maybe she'd
    give him a dick massage...that he and this other girl hide in the
    closet, and she gives him one. Both these kids were 8 too.
    	Well, I didn't tell him what a dick massage was...but I did sit
    down with him and his older brother shortly thereafter for "the talk."
    It was good that I did because they had a lot of questions, despite
    being embarrassed...and they also now feel comfortable coming to me
    with questions about it. Of course, once they knew all about it, they
    didn't want to have ANYTHING to do with it for a LONG time, if ever.
    They'll stick to basketball and extreme sledding, they told me.
46.19MKOTS3::RAUHI survived the Cruel SpaTue Feb 25 1997 12:355
    My eight year old asked me when I was going to find a stepmom for her.
    I told her that you cannot find a step mom like you can buy a Barbi
    doll under plastic at Toys-R-Us.:-)
46.20DANGER::ASKETHBeware of Greeks bearing gifts...Tue Feb 25 1997 14:0010
>    I told her that you cannot find a step mom like you can buy a Barbi
>    doll under plastic at Toys-R-Us.:-)
    
Unless of course you (the proverbial you that is) marry me.  ;-)

Barb(ie)

p.s. I have actually dated 2 different guys named Ken.  ;-)
46.21AXEL::FOLEYhttp://axel.zko.dec.comTue Feb 25 1997 15:537
RE: .20

	Dated any G.I. Joe's Barb?

	You know what they say about Barbie/Ken/& G.I. Joe, right?

							mike
46.22MKOTS3::RAUHI survived the Cruel SpaFri Feb 28 1997 16:075
    >Unless of course you ( the proverbial you that is ) marry me.  ;-)
    
    But! We haven't even dated! Eeegads! A preposal!! :)
46.23DANGER::ASKETHBeware of Greeks bearing gifts...Fri Feb 28 1997 16:216
>    >Unless of course you ( the proverbial you that is ) marry me.  ;-)
    
>    But! We haven't even dated! Eeegads! A preposal!! :)
    
Dream on George!  Do you understand "proverbial you"????
46.24MKOTS3::RAUHI survived the Cruel SpaFri Feb 28 1997 16:293
    Nope! Just don't get it.:) But, then agian, yha don't know when I am
    just funning yha. Alittle humor...;)