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Conference turris::womannotes-v3

Title:	Topics of Interest to Women
Notice:	V3 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:	REGENT::BROOMHEAD

Created:	Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:	Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:	Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:	1078
Total number of notes:	52352

612.0. "Second Weddings" by MARLIN::RYAN (Make sure your calling is true) Fri Jan 04 1991 12:02

    When my sister got married for the first time about 10 years ago, she
    disowned the family, didn't invite us to the wedding and it generally
    wasn't a fun time. She eventually came back to the family and after
    suffering a long horrible marriage to an insane alcoholic scum bucket,
    got a divorce. She met a really nice guy and is engaged to be
    married now.   
    
    She has asked my sister and I to be in the wedding.She says she wants to 
    it "right" this time, the whole family involved, a church, the whole 9
    yards. My question is, we want to throw her a shower-type thing to let
    her know that we care, but she has so much stuff right now that she has
    had to give away half...so we want to throw maybe a non-present type
    thing, but....well...I don't know. My sister (not the one getting
    married) suggested a lingerie party, but I thought that was
    kinda...stupid.  Does anybody have any suggestions ? I'm not
    particularly concerned with ettiquette, I just want to make her happy.
    
    Thanks alot
    
    Dee

T.R	Title	User	Personal Name	Date	Lines
612.1	A few ideas...	ROLL::FOSTER		`Fri Jan 04 1991 12:11`	10
	Just throw a regular party with a theme and don't call it a shower. Or, if the wedding is going to be expensive, there are polite ways to ask for cash. Or, have a stag-ette party at a restaurant or night club. Make it roast style, with everyone getting up and toasting/roasting the bride-to-be. If it would amuse her, you could always get a male dancer.
612.2	A personal shower	TOOK::CURRIER		`Fri Jan 04 1991 12:12`	5
	A new marriage - a new life - why not new things? Back in the olden days (when I got hitched) we had 'Personal showers'. At them the bride to be didn't get appliances etc. She got lingerie and other neat personal stuff. These were always my (and most other people's) favorites.
612.3		POLAR::WOOLDRIDGE		`Fri Jan 04 1991 12:51`	2
	Why not take her to nice place to eat and then a good show after.
612.4	two ideas for you	TIPTOE::STOLICNY		`Fri Jan 04 1991 13:00`	18
	Here's a few other ideas that I've heard used when the bride/groom didn't need any more toasters or blenders: Recipe Shower - each guest brings a favorite recipe (sometimes along with a hard-to-find ingredient from that recipe or a special dish to serve it in). the hostess provides a recipe card file or book to store all the new recipes. Bottle Shower - each guest brings something in a bottle - be it liquor, bubble bath, maple syrup, or herbed vinegar! Creativity is the key here...not $$. Both of these ideas usually satisfy the need in people to bring "something". Of course, there's always the Greenback shower of New England fame (never cared for the idea myself). Carol
612.5	pointers	LEZAH::BOBBITT	trial by stone	`Fri Jan 04 1991 13:32`	12
	see also: Womannotes-V2 694 - Jack & Jill Showers - help! 810 - where to hold a bridal shower? Weddings 30 - Bridal shower stories 91 - bridal shower suggestions -Jody
612.6		ESIS::GALLUP	Swish, swish.....splat!	`Fri Jan 04 1991 14:19`	13
	An idea that I like is the Money tree. Get 2-3' tree from a nursery (an indoor houseplant type tree) and suggest that people bring small bills to decorate the tree (and that unique presents are welcome if they want to do that). Perhaps the money can be used to go toward spending money on their honeymoon or something. kath
612.7	Doesn't have to be big.	HAVOC::MYOUNG		`Fri Jan 04 1991 16:35`	14
	Maybe you could all go to a Nick's Comedy Stop show, or some other type of entertainment. You could have a shower with a honeymoon theme, then she could get gifts like; travel bags, travel purse, as well as bubble bath and other things like that. One time we had a friend getting married and we wanted to throw her a shower, (but for many reasons it was not appropriate to give a large one) so we had a shower with six people. We sat at the dining room table and had lunch and munchies and she opened some small gifts, a couple of which were pretty funny. Cake and coffee finished the "shower". She was very happy with her little shower, and we had a lot of fun too!