Conference turris::womannotes-v3

    I had similar symptoms (though I wasn't recently, or ever, married) but
    the ups/downs kept on and on until I thought I would explode!  I didn't
    want to do anything, either, or talk to anyone, etc.
    
    A good friend encouraged me to visit her doctor, a general
    practitioner, and talk with him about what I'd been going through and
    get some blood work to make sure that I wasn't suffering from a
    chemical imbalance-type problem.  My friend was diagnosed several years
    ago as being manic-depressive and has been doing VERY WELL since
    beginning Lithium therapy.
    
    I went to the doctor, we talked about physical, emotional and spiritual
    health (which in itself made me feel a little better) and I had blood
    work done.  The blood work didn't show anything up but the doctor did
    prescribe Prozac and Buspar.  I would never have believed it but these
    medications have completely changed my life.
    
    So if you think that the blues have been hanging' around too long and
    you just feel crummy...it certainly won't hurt to see a physician. 
    It's been only a month so you might want to give it a little longer,
    depending on just how intensely you're feeling.  Whatever you decide, I
    hope the very best for you and hope that you'll do whatever you need to
    do so that you can begin to experience the fulness of life every day!
    
    Happy Marriage, Happy Life!

    Could be physical.  Could be you're just adjusting to what you may
    perceive as a "new segment" of your life - I mean, you may have been
    living together, but living-together-and-married is really quite
    different to some people and you may be working through your
    acknowledgement of that.
    
    I'd say talk to a doctor to see if there's anything physically wrong. 
    Maybe also talk to a counselor, to see if they have any insights on
    what's going on and how you can acclimate yourself to the changes that
    may be going on with you.  
    
    chin up, and crossed fingers....
    
    -Jody

wow, 

I've been searching for some of the 'positive suggestions' you've asked for,
because I can really sympathise.

Rick & I were living together before we married, the flowers were all wrong,
the air conditioning broke, the photographer was in a chemically altered
state, and everyone else[except my mother-in-law and Rick] remembers 
an exquisite day and had a great time.

I didn't think that being married would make such a difference, but it did.
Somehow, after all the fuss and hoopla, it didn't seem right that our
normal existence would be no different.  I found myself trying to _make_ it
different, just for the sake of difference. Bad move.

It's entirely possible that the root of the problem lies in there being no
real measureable difference in your situation.  You worked very hard on this 
wedding.  We're sort of brought up to view weddings as a rite of passage, 
and there's a disconnect from the expectations we grew up with.

It's been so long now that I can't quite recall what pulled me out of it; it
just stopped after about 6-8 weeks.

  Ann

    
    Thank you all for your suggestions, here and through my mail.  I'm
    feeling better today.  One person suggested that I might be trying to
    live up to someone else's expectations of *whatever*.  She was right. 
    I guess I was embarrassed that 'I had done such a poor job'.  And
    because of being embarrassed, I didn't want to talk to anyone who knew,
    ie: friends.  Also, .3 is probably right too.  The only other wedding I
    could really compare to was my other best friend's and she & her hubby
    hadn't lived together before.  (And he turned into Mr Romantic!)
    Also, I failed to mention that I lost a total of 15 pounds in the year
    before my wedding, about 5 in the last 2 months.  I also lost about 2
    pounds after my wedding.  I wouldn't be surprised if I'm missing some
    nutrients.  I got a book to read about health.  (I lost the weight
    through a combination of exercise and Slim Fast + lots of veggies.)
    
    Thanks again for all the help!  I feel better already!
    Rachael
    

    Racheal,
    
    I was going through exactly the same simptoms!!!  I am a newlywed also,
    3 months tomorrow!  It lasted about 1 1/2 - 2 months, then al of a
    sudden I was back to my old self!  I also wrote a note about my
    depression in Dejavu notes/file, #1227.  I was having thoughts of
    death, that others claimed to be caused by the fact that I am a
    newlywed and I have lost my maiden name and taken on a "NEW" name.  The
    loss of your maiden name may be causing you to be depressed in some way
    and you might not realize it.  You should read what was written in
    DEJAVU #1227.  It might help you to understand.
    
    Melissa