|  |     Having had the opportunity to experience a tremendous amount of
    personal growth in my lifetime, particularly due to a number of
    years being a battered wife (no pain, no gain, right?;)) and, later
    a single parent of numerous children, I have become "living proof"
    that lives *can* change for the better.  I feel fortunate to be
    able to be a role model for literally hundreds of battered and abused
    women in the Salt Lake Valley, and offer hope through my seminars
    on Change Your Mind/Change Your Life, and variations on that theme.
    During the past 5 years, I have done numerous seminars and talks
    for displaced homemakers, battered women, divorced singles of both
    sexes, employment agencies, colleges and high schools, on the fine
    art of re-programming your mind and, thereby, changing your life.
    I offer support to those trying, or being forced to make those changes,
    and have been rewarded many times over in totally unexpected ways.
    
    In a similar vein...I have done occasional career counseling and
    have helped a number of people find "the job they wanted".  Everytime
    they succeed, I feel like I, too, have won a victory.
    
    A poem I wrote in 1979 called "On Becoming A Man" has been used
    in couseling recovering alcoholics.  I have been told it gives them
    hope.
    
    If I watch for it, everyday is a chance to make someone's life a
    little bit better place to live, and, in return, my world grows
    a little brighter.  *I* am the lucky one.
    
    Barb 
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|  |     Re: .2
    
    Here you go, Kate...
    
  
    A man is not measured by feet and inches
     But by the greatness of his heart.
    He is not measured by strength of force
    But by strength of character.
    He cannot be weighed in pounds and ounces
    But by the love and compassion he holds for others.
    His might is not by force of arms;
    Rather, his power lies in his laughter and tears.
    His bravery is not in overwhelming others with violence--
    Crushing all obstacles, real or imagined.
    His courages is in the realization of his manhood
    And of not fearing for others to see him as he really is.
    
    Barbara Haslam
    February, 1979. 
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