| Title: | ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 1 --ARCHIVE | 
| Notice: | V1 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open. | 
| Moderator: | REGENT::BROOMHEAD | 
| Created: | Thu Jan 30 1986 | 
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 30 1995 | 
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    I am interested in what is considered "cheating" and what is
    not "cheating."
    
    _peggy
    
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| 349.3 | See also previous discussion | QUARK::LIONEL | We all live in a yellow subroutine | Thu Jun 25 1987 14:33 | 4 | 
|     See also note 57 and replies in QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS for a 
    discussion of this subject.  Press keypad 7 to add HUMAN_RELATIONS
    to your notebook.
    				Steve
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| 349.4 | to get back on track | BUFFER::LEEDBERG | Truth is Beauty, Beauty is Truth | Thu Jun 25 1987 14:39 | 18 | 
|     
    
    BTW:
    
    		I did not mention cheating in a relationship.
    
    		I was think more on the lines of getting things
    		done - cutting corners - not quite honest
    		reporting - crib sheets - not playing by the
    		rules or changing them to suit personal taste.
    
    		Stange that cheating is first responded to as
    		unfaithful lovers.
    
    	_peggy
    			(-)
    			 |	Who's rules do you follow?
    
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| 349.5 | Patience | REGENT::BROOMHEAD | Don't panic -- yet. | Fri Jun 26 1987 13:26 | 31 | 
|     Copied from 331.151:
    There is a very difficult, but very rewarding method of dealing
    with another team/person/<x> who cheats, and where the referees
    are firmly on the side of <x>.
    
    You play very hard, very honest, very sincere (with an appearance
    of naivite [na�vit� for the 8-bitters]), and very, very patiently.
    It will happen that someone cheats *so* blatantly that the referee
    has to call it.  Then you make sure that everyone knows it.
    
    Now, not everyone can do this, and not everyone will be `lucky'
    enough to be there when the slip is made, but the effect is
    devastating,and very rewarding.  (The first time I found myself
    in such a case, the individual left the company within the week.)
    
    This is ONLY ONE tool (Call it the slow scalpel.) and we need many,
    and we need incredible stamina to maintain the level of effort
    that they all require to be effective (and we shouldn't have to
    do any of this), and we all need to work on all of them whenever
    we have the energy and mindset[s] that make it all work, and it
    will take generations, but some results will show up, here and
    there, in the short term, and the final results will come the
    quicker for our efforts.
    
    (Oh, dear, I'm sorry to sound so gung ho.  I'm not; I'm tired too.
    Just:  We should do what we can, when we can, because it'll be
    better if we do than if we don't.  And we can still rail against
    having to do any of it!)
    
    							Ann B.
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