| Title: | BAGELS and other things of Jewish interest | 
| Notice: | 1.0 policy, 280.0 directory, 32.0 registration | 
| Moderator: | SMURF::FENSTER | 
| Created: | Mon Feb 03 1986 | 
| Last Modified: | Thu Jun 05 1997 | 
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 | 
| Number of topics: | 1524 | 
| Total number of notes: | 18709 | 
    Shalom!
    
    A close friend of mine, an Israeli, has sent word his mom died yesterday.
    He and I were very close and worked together for some time before he 
    returned to Israel. I would like to send my condolences to him. Is there 
    anything that would be particularly meaningful in the Hebrew/Jewish 
    tradition to send him or to write to him in a card or letter? He is 
    not Orthodox. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks!
    
    Velehitraut,
    
    Joe
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| 382.1 | feel free to express your condolences | FILM::LIFLAND | morDECai ben_zeef | Tue Oct 06 1987 09:20 | 18 | 
|     JOE
    	While I am not sure of the traditions for Israelis, my wife
    and I have found it the custom locally to send a card. Most
    Conservative and Reform Temples have a gift shop with condolence
    cards. Many Jewish bookstores also carry 'greeting/event cards'.
    There is also two Jewish Women's organizations that can also help,
    Hadassah, and ORT. There profit goes to charites in Isreal.
    	What you might also consider is planting a tree in Israel in
    his mother's name. It is a custom in some circles to mark an event
    by planting a tree. By planting the tree you are telling your friend
    that you cared enough to do something more than 'just' sending a
    card and that his mother will be remembered for as logn as the tree
    shall live. I beleive that it cost about $10 or $15, and it is 'tax
    deductable'. Most temples can help and I beleive the Israel consulate
    office can also assist.
    
    				Mordecai Ben_Zeef
    
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| 382.2 | I agree, plant a tree | IAGO::SCHOELLER | Caught in an information firestorm | Tue Oct 06 1987 10:11 | 7 | 
|     Joe
    I would second having a tree planted.  This is especially appropriate
    if there is not specified or you do not know of a charity suggested for
    memorial donations.
    Gavriel
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