Conference quokka::non_custodial_parents

    Unless it is stated in a final decree that the $25.00 will go directly
    to the sitter, the answer is no. And if there is a chance that she owes
    you money. Document what is the what. And then pray....Lots... Cause
    you have very little chance. Lost equity, because you lost money on the
    sales of your house? No, she will not have to pay that either. She is a
    woman who, if working, makes in the eyes of the court $.60 to your
    $1.00 per hour. Unless you can prove that she was reckless in her
    behavior. Not a chance. Best thing is to chock it to experience and
    pray that you will see your child.
    
    Peace
    
    

    One last other thing.......
    
    UNLESS YOU HAVE IT IN WRITING THAT YOU ARE TO PAY THE BABY SITTER
    DIRECTLY. YOUR IN DEEP S*IT. For it sounds like custody will go to mom,
    and mom is the guardian, and mom can clean your clocks because you are
    not paying her. So, If I were you the thing to do right off the bat, is
    tonight find that letter that says its so, and/or find a way to get a
    letter from you ex that states such. 
    
    Then secondly, everytime you pay the ex, document it if you pay cash,
    and or photostate or keep all cancled checks. I write out a reciept for
    mine when she give me money. She pays in cash, I like it but don't like
    it. Cause either party could take advantage of the other. 
    A good one that She had learned, probably from her NCP brother is to
    pay you cash for two weeks and if you don't write it down, Exactly, she
    would skip out week three and week four if she could be convincing. So,
    now things are documented. And I would suggest you do the same.
    A good three ring loose leave binder with a three hole punch helps
    much.

    If you can document what you say (Ie if it is written down in the
    court papers, and you have receipts of canceled checks to show you
    paid her the money) then you have a reasonable chance.  If you cannot
    document this, you're up the proverbial creek without a paddle.  I say
    _reasonable_ chance, since I've seen judges screw the NCP over anyway.

    fred();

    Going back a litte I am a CP(50% fiscal custody) and I do have it written 
    down in my divorce degree that 50.00 go to the baby sitter and 25.00 to 
    the ex-wife.When no longer needed the whole amount go to ex-wife.
    This mean that if me or ex is out of a job or full time in school.
    She does not work she is taking welfare route and I am still
    working.She has turn me down on taking care of the kids when I have
    them in my week.She said" you have to supply your own babysitter" 
    Please read my first note(250.1). hey additional info will be gladly
    accepted.
    

    made a mastake read the 250.0 for info.
    
    

    Sorry, I assumed something that I guess I musta missed. Anyhow. Chances
    are that you will not recieve any money for the out of pocket loss's.
    
    Too bad you cannot argue or or perhaps prepose that she re-emburses you
    over the course of several years. As in, a pay back plan that is
    flexable enough that when she is done with school you will be
    re-embursed in full.:) Example, like go with a $5.00 per month for a
    couple of years at standard bank interest of.... say 5%, and when she
    is done with school. Ba-da Booom! Ba-da Bing! She pays you up in full
    and this beats getting the full stick in the eye routine. 
    
    Going with something as a token amount of money as a first opening of
    the door with the courts can help you gain it back than to demand money
    in full up front and loose it all.:_)