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Name | Date | Lines |
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| 708.1 | | R2ME2::BENNISON | Victor L. Bennison DTN 381-2156 ZK2-3/R56 | Thu Dec 26 1991 20:50 | 5 |
| Mod's comment: That means, Herb, that you yourself should not reply
to this note. That's only fair since you aren't a woman.
Carry on.
- Vick
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| 708.2 | | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Fri Dec 27 1991 09:21 | 5 |
| Other mod's comment - it is a policy of this conference (see one of
the replies to note 1) that replies to topics may not be restricted to
exclude groups of people.
Steve
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| 708.3 | | VMSSPT::NICHOLS | It ain't easy being green | Fri Dec 27 1991 09:54 | 13 |
| I was hoping that by simply posing it as a question that we might get
around the restriction without really breaking the rules. Sort of
urging voluntary restraint. In this fashion I was hoping to get some
frank expressions of how wives feel unencumbered by the 'threat' of
male rebuttal.
It seemed important to understand both
a) what wives feel is missing from their husbands
b) the kinds of behavior they show toward their husbands that
they would like to see reciprocated.
herb
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| 708.4 | What's love got to do with it? It's common sense and decency. | CLUSTA::BINNS | | Mon Dec 30 1991 10:47 | 20 |
| I'll break the rules right away, but as a man who does most of the
chores and housework, maybe I sit in a special position.
The issue is not doing chores as an expression of love, but as an
expression of both partners' understanding that the work must get done
and that it is unfair to burden one member with an excessive amount.
That burden is particularly irksome when it is imposed by reason of
sexual stereotype.
Romance and love are irrelevant -- if you were simply roomates sharing
space without any particular affection, you would also have to take
the sharing of burdens into account, and in fact you might more likely
use some of the formalistic listing of chores that you suggest as an
appropriate way to show your love.
I do not suggest that an even sharing of household duties is always in
order -- it depends on the time demands on the partners, their personal
levels of comfort at home, their relative efficiency at chores, etc?
Kit
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| 708.5 | | VMSSG::NICHOLS | It ain't easy being green | Mon Dec 30 1991 11:01 | 8 |
| I am hard put to understand how anybody could thing this topic is
about household chores.
so thankyou
a) for changing the subject
b) "breaking the rules"
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