Conference quark::mennotes-v1

    Skip,
    
    	Are there children in the divorce? What state are you in?

    Yes there are two children, my son is 18 and away at Northeastern U.
    (you want to talk $$ in tuition, yikes!) and my daughter is 15. She is
    living with her mother in the house. I wanted my daughter to be able to
    finish high school in Auburn, so I agreed to let her choose who she
    would rather live with. She chose her mother. There are no problems 
    between us, she is just more comfortable living with my wife. So I kind
    of defaulted out of the house (at least until she graduates. We have a
    tentative deal to sell the house then). 
    
    My wife said that if I bought her out she would by another house or
    condo in Auburn, so that shouldn't change if we sold the house
    outright.
    
    I think she just wants to stick me with that particular house (not a
    bad house, but I could do much better with $60k in my pocket for a new down
    payment). She's already looked at some small houses for around 80-90K
    so she get's herself a sweet 20-30k mortgage, while I get stuck paying
    60K for a house I already paid for. 
    
    Of course you know that on top of it all I live in the wonderful state
    of Massachusetts. I would be really happy to hear of any one thing,
    just a little thing, a tiny little insignificant thing that is in MY
    favor. I suppose they could be putting me in front of a firing squad,
    but that would let me off too easy. A little p*ssed.... nah!
    
    Skip

    Well Skip.... You could by her out later, and rent out to others to
    make up lost moneys and to pay for other horras that come along that
    makes one re-think the issues of matramonie... You are in a pickle, no
    doubt about it. The Peoples Republic of Mass has got many a good man by
    the reproductive short hairs there. So fret not, as they say in the
    gutar business! Is it an over done deal with the judge of injustice
    prosiding?? Or is he still standing in the wings along with the fat
    lady to sing??

    re .0
    
    I'll admit to knowing nothing about divorce, but I would say that you
    should get yourself a (better) lawyer.  The example that you gave is
    not an equitable split of the proceeds.  The taxes should be subtracted
    before the proceeds are split.  (If the state doesn't agree with me,
    then it's worse than I thought.)
    
    Rich

re:  .0


Don't forget any monies you have in eschrow when you do the split, however
that is done.

-Joe

    1. Try to negotiate with your wife. Your present agreement doesn't 
    sound too good for you.
    2. Study the laws in your state.(State to State, laws differ greatly)
    3. You may want to look into Joint Custody of the youngest child.
    4. Don't give away everything . Depending on State Law, your property
    is owned jointly.Half yours and half your wife's. 
    5. Customarily, whomever has custody will get most of the property.
    6. In my state the courts say that the wife and children are entitled
    to the same lifestyle after the breakup as they were accustomed to
    before the breakup.
    7. Good luck ! (You may need to look for a second job. But, lets hope
    not)

    re:.6
    The judge will also consider your wife's earning potential.If she can
    be self supporting,this will be factored into the settlement.
    
    Best Wishes,
    
    CZ