| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name
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| 1052.1 | I found these helpful... | GODIVA::bence | The hum of bees... | Mon Aug 06 1990 12:53 | 7 | 
|  | 
	"The Dance of Anger" and "The Dance of Intimacy" by Harriet Lerner.
	Two good books on the dynamics of anger and intimacy and how
	we often misdirect them.
						clb
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| 1052.2 |  | HEFTY::CHARBONND | in the dark the innocent can't see | Mon Aug 06 1990 14:11 | 2 | 
|  |     "The Psychology of Romantic Love" and "What Love Asks of Us",
    By Nathaniel Branden and E. Devers Branden
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| 1052.3 |  | REGENT::WOODWARD | shut up and dance | Tue Aug 07 1990 08:07 | 3 | 
|  |     "Love"  ---  Leo F. Buscaglia
    "Living, Loving, and Learning" --- Leo F. Buscaglia
    "Loving Each Other" --- Leo F. Buscaglia
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| 1052.4 |  | LYRIC::BOBBITT | water, wind, and stone | Tue Aug 07 1990 09:31 | 10 | 
|  |     Human Be-Ing
    (I can't remember the author - perhaps someone can supply it?)
    
    Hugh Prather - (almost anything he writes is great)
    including "Notes to Myself", "Notes to Each Other", etc....
    
    -Jody
    
    
    
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| 1052.5 | refreshing | HURON::REDNER |  | Tue Aug 07 1990 09:43 | 11 | 
|  |      
    
    	Psychological Seduction 
    		the author's name I can not remember
    
    		The book explains how modern psychology promises alot but
    		delivers very little........ interesting.
    
    
    
    
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| 1052.6 |  | ASABET::COHEN |  | Tue Aug 07 1990 13:24 | 5 | 
|  |     
    		One to One
    			--  Theodore Rubin
    
    ralph
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| 1052.7 |  | WR1FOR::HOGGE_SK | Dragon Slaying...No Waiting! | Tue Aug 07 1990 14:55 | 3 | 
|  |     Anything I Ever Really Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten.
    
    Skip
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| 1052.8 | :-) | HPSTEK::XIA | In my beginning is my end. | Tue Aug 07 1990 18:12 | 5 | 
|  |     _The Joy of Sex_ by Georg Cantor.
    
    _The Action of a Group on Sexes_ by Galois and Sylow.
    
    _To Choose or Not to Choose_ by Zorn.
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| 1052.10 | If you like to read...... | FOOZLE::SHAMEL |  | Wed Aug 08 1990 09:00 | 472 | 
|  |           ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          AA Big Book
          A Gift of Hope                      R. Veninga
          A New Guide to Rational Living      Albert Ellis
          A Time to Heal                      T. Cermak
          Active Loving                       A. Kiev
          Addicted to Perfection              M. Woodman
          Adult Children: The Secrets of      John Friel, Linda       8.95
          Dysfunctional Families              Friel
          Adult Children of Alcoholics        Janet Geringer          6.95
                                              Wotitz
          Adult Children of Alcoholics        P.K. Anderson
          Coming Home
          Adult Children of Alcoholics        Wayne Kritsberg
          Syndrome: From Discovery to
          Recovery
          After The Tears: Reclaiming the     Jane Middleton-Moz      7.95
          Personal Losses of Childhood
          (co-author Lorie Dwinell)
          Anger                               Tavris
          Are You Missing The Boat To         George W. Vroom         7.95
          Recovery? How to Successfully
          Take Charge of Your Life
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          As You Think                        Allen
          Awareness                           John O. Stevens
          Betrayal of Innocence               Susan Forward           7.95
          Beyond Codependence: And Getting    Melody Beattie          9.95
          Better All the Time
          Beyond Ourselves                    C. Marshall
          Born to Love                        M. James
          Bradshaw On: The Family, A          John Bradshaw           9.95
          Revolutionary Way of Self-
          Discovery
          Breaking Free of the Co-            Barry Weinhold          11.95
          Dependency Trap                     Ph.D., Janae Wein-
                                              hold Ph.D.
          Brief Encounters                    E. Coleman
          Build Your Brain Power              A. Winter
          Childhood and Society               Erik H. Erikson
          Children of Trauma: Rediscover-     Jane Middleton-Moz      9.95
          ing Your Discarded Self
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Choicemaking                        S. Wegscheider-Cruse    9.95
          Codependence: Misunderstood-        Anne Wilson Schaef      8.95
          Mistreated
          Cognitive Behavior Modification     D. Meichenbaum
          Cognitive Therapy and Emotional     A.T. Beck
          Disorders
          Codependent No More: How to Stop    M. Beattie              9.95
          Controlling Others and Start
          Caring for Yourself
          Conjoint Family Therapy: Your       Virginia Satir
          Many Faces
          Coping With Difficult People        R. Bramson
          Creative Aggression                 G. Bach & H. Gold-
                                              berg
          Creative Visualization              S. Gawain               4.50
          Dealing With Difficult People       C. Keating
          Diagnosing and Treating Co-         Timmen Cermak
          dependence
          Don't Say Yes When You Want to      J. Bauer
          Say No
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Elements of Psychopathology: The    Robert White &
          Mechanisms of Defense               Gilliland
          Embracing Our Selves                Hal Stone & Sidra
                                              Winkelman
          Escape From Intimacy: Untangling    Anne Wilson Schaef      13.95
          the "Love" Addictions: Sex,
          Romance, Relationships
          Facing Codependence: What It        Pia Mellody             10.95
          Is, Where It Comes From, How It
          Sabotages Our Lives
          Facing Shame                        M. Fossum & M. Mason    10.95
          Family Secrets                      Rachel V.
          Feeling Good                        D. Burns                5.95
          Feelings                            Gaylin
          Focusing                            Eugene Gendlin          4.95
          Following The Yellow Brick          Joy Miller, Marianne    9.95
          Road: The Adult Child's Journey     Ripper
          Through OZ
          For Your Own Good                   Alice Miller            8.95
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Fresh Start                         L. Felder
          From Sad to Glad                    N. Kline
          Games Mother Never Taught You       B. Harragan
          Genesis: Spirituality in Recov-     Julie Bowden, Her-      6.95
          ery from Childhood Traumas          bert Gravitz
          Gifts for Personal Growth and       Wayne Kritsberg
          Recovery
          Go For It                           I. Kassorla
          Growing Through Personal Crisis     E. Cayce
          Having It All                       H.G. Brown
          Healing The Child Within: Dis-      Charles Whitfield       8.95
          covery and Recovery for Adult
          Children Of Dysfunctional Fami-
          lies
          Healing the Same that Binds You     John Bradshaw           9.95
          Healing Your Sexual Self            Janet Wotitz
          Holding Back: Why we Hide the       Marie Lindquist         6.95
          Truth About Ourselves
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Home Away From Home: The Art        Janet Wotitz            13.95
          of Self-Sabotage, Dedicated to
          ACOA's in the Workplace
          How to Become An Assertive Woman    Taubman
          How to be An Assertive not          J. Bauer
          Agressive Woman
          How to Get Angry with Feeling       A. Bry
          Guilty
          How to Get What You Want Out of     J. Brothers
          Life
          How to Live With Another Person     D. Viscott              4.50
          How to Survive the Loss of A        M. Colgrove             3.95
          Love
          How to Win Over Depression          T. La Haye
          If Only My Family Understood...     Don Wegscheider         6.95
          Inner Work                          Robert Johnson
          It Will Never Happen To Me          C. Black
          Jealousy                            N. Friday
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Learning To Love Again              M. Krantzler
          Learning To Love Yourself           Gay Hendricks
          Learning To Love Yourself           Sharon Wesheider-       7.95
                                              Cruse
          Let Go and Grow                     R. Akerman
          Live Longer Now                     N. Pritikin
          Living in the Light                 S. Gawain
          Lost in the Shuffle: The Co-        Robert Subby            8.95
          dependent Reality
          Love and Addiction                  Stanton Peele &
                                              Archie Brodsky
          Love is Letting Go of Fear          G. Jampolsky
          Love is Never Enough                A. Beck
          Loving Each Other                   L. Buscaglia            8.95
          Loving Relationships                S. Ray
          Loving Styles                       Rosenman
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Lying, Dispair, Jealously, Envy,    Leslie Faber
          Sex, Suicide, Drugs and the Good
          Life
          Making Changes                      A. Dean
          Making Peace With Your Parents      H. Bloomfield
          Making Peace With Yourself          H. Bloomfield
          Mirror, Mask and Shadow             Sheldon Kopp
          Moodswing                           R. Fieve
          My Needs, Your Needs, Our Needs     J. Gillies
          My Mother/Myself                    N. Friday               4.95
          Necessary Losses                    Judith Voirst
          Networking                          M.S. Welch
          Nice Girls Do                       I. Kassorla
          No Boundary                         Kenneth Wilber
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Old Patterns, New Truths: Beyond    Earnie Larson           9.95
          the Adult Child Syndrome
          On Shame and the Search for         Helen Merrell Lynd
          Idenity
          Out of the Shadows: Understand-     Pat Carnes
          ing Sexual Addiction
          Paring                              G. Bach
          Passages                            G. Sheehy
          Pictures of Childhood               Alice Miller
          Positive Addiction                  W. Glasser
          Power Play                          M. Cunningham
          Rediscovering Love                  W. Gaylin
          Reality Therapy                     W. Glassner
          Recovery: A Guide for Adult         J. Bowden, H.           10.95
          Children of Alcholics               Gravitz
          Recovery From Co-Dependency:        Laurie Weiss,           9.95
          It's Never Too Late to Reclaim      Jonathon Weiss
          Your Childhood
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Risking                             Viscott
          Same House Different Homes          R. Ackerman
          Self Esteem                         Matthew McKay &
                                              Patrick Fanning
          Self Esteem                         Virginia Satir          4.95
          Self Parenting: The Complete        Dr. John K. Pollard,    9.95
          Guide to Your Inner Conversa-       III
          tions
          Shame and Guilt                     Jane Middelton_Moz      8.95
          Shame: The Power of Caring          Gershen Kaufman
          Some Men Are More Perfect Than      M. Shain
          Others
          Speak Up, Christain Assertive-      Sanders
          ness
          Smart Women Foolish Choices         C. Cowan, M. Kinder
          Stage II Recovery: Life Beyond      Earnie Larson           7.95
          Addiction
          Stage II Relationships: Love        Earnie Larson           7.95
          Beyond Addiction
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Stop, You're Driving Me Crazy       G. Bach
          Stressmap                           M. Haney
          Straight Talk                       S. Miller
          Strong Choices, Weak Choices        G. Rosellini,
                                              M.Worden
          Struggle for Intimacy...Dedicated   Janet Woititz           6.95
          to ACOA's
          The Addictive Organization          Anne Schaef, Diane      16.95
                                              Fassel
          The Addictive Parsonality:          Craig Nakken            7.95
          Understanding Compulsion in
          Our Lives
          The Adult Children of Alcoholics    W. Kritsberg
          Syndrome
          The Angry Book                      T. Rubin
          The Answer Within: A Clini-         S Lankton & C.
          cal Framework of Ericksonian        Lankton
          Hypnosis
          The Cinderella Complex              C. Dowling              4.95
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          The Dance of Anger: A Woman's       Harriet G. Lerner       8.95
          Guide to Changing the Patterns
          of Intimate Relationships
          The Dance of Intimacy               H.G. Lerner             8.95
          The Drama of the Gifted Child       Alice Miller            6.95
          The Fantasy Bond                    Robert Firestone
          The Farther Reaches of Human        Abraham Maslow
          Nature
          The Flying Boy: Healing the         John Lee                7.95
          Wounded Man
          The Mind/Body Effect                H. Benson
          The Miracle Of Recovery: Healing    Sharon Wegheider-       9.95
          for Addicts, Adult Children and     Cruse
          Co-Dependents
          The Narcissistic and Borderline     James Masterson
          Disorders
          The New Assertive Woman             Bloom
          The Power of Positive Thinking      N.V. Peale
          The Practice of Behavior Therapy    J. Wolpe
          The Road Less Traveled              M.S. Peck               10.95
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          The Self Talk Solution              S. Helmstetter
          The Twelve Steps of AA              Hazelden
          The Ways of the Will                Leslie Faber
          They Lived Happily Ever After       Leslie Bandler
          Towards A new Psychology of         Miller
          Women
          Total Recall                        J. Minninger
          Transformations                     Gould
          Transformers                        Jacquelyn Small
          Turning Points                      E. Goodman
          Twelve Steps to Self-Parenting      P. O'Gorman
          What to Say to Yourself             S. Helmstetter
          What to Say When You Talk to        S. Helmstetter          4.95
          Yourself
          When I say No, I Feel Guilty        Manuel Smith            5.50
          When Lovers Are Friends             M. Shain
          When Society Becomes An Addict      Anne Wilson Schaef      15.95
          ________________________________________________________________
          BOOK_TITLE__________________________AUTHOR__________________COST
          Women Men Love, Women Men Leave     C. Cowan/M. Kinder      5.95
          Women Who Love Too Much             Robin Norwood           4.95
          Women's Burnout                     H. Freudenberger
          Woman's Reality                     Anne Wilson Schaef      9.95
          Woman's Way's of Knowing: The       Belenky, Clinchy,       10.95
          Development of Self, Voice and      Goldberger, Tarule
          Mind
          Work Addiction: Hidden Legacies     Bryan E. Robinson       8.95
          of Adult Children
          Why Men Are the Way They Are        W. Farrell              4.95
          You are Extraordinary               R. Williams
          Your Erroneous Zones                Dyer                    4.95
          Your Perfect Right                  Robert Alberti
          Your Inner Child of the Past        W. Missildine
          ________________________________________________________________
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          Values Clarification: A Handbook    S.B. Simon, L.B.
          of Practical Strategies for         Howe & H. Kirschen-
          Teachers_and_Students               baum
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| 1052.9 | <good book> | WONDER::PTAK | Karen Ptak | Wed Aug 08 1990 10:02 | 4 | 
|  |     "Swept Away...Why women fear their own sexuality"
    
        by Carol Cassell, PHD.
    
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| 1052.11 |  | WR1FOR::HOGGE_SK | Dragon Slaying...No Waiting! | Wed Aug 08 1990 14:59 | 7 | 
|  |     Re.10... have you actually READ all of these????  If so how about
    some comments on which onces you think are best and a little blurp
    about them so we can select the ones we'd get the most from.
    
    You must have one heck of a library at home.
    
    Skip
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| 1052.12 | Algebraists do it in groups | ERIS::CALLAS | You can use your head if you want to | Wed Aug 08 1990 17:30 | 5 | 
|  |     re .8:
    
    Bravo, Eugene!
    
    	Jon
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| 1052.13 |  | WMOIS::B_REINKE | treasures....most of them dreams | Thu Aug 09 1990 07:46 | 6 | 
|  |     in re Jon in re Eugene...
    
    I've been writing to Eugene about the authors to his books, nice
    to see that there are other people who appreciate his humor. :-)
    
    Bonnie
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| 1052.14 |  | HPSTEK::XIA | In my beginning is my end. | Thu Aug 09 1990 13:45 | 12 | 
|  | re .12
>                        -< Algebraists do it in groups >-
    Then there is also the saying about Analysts (something about
    continuously but discretely :-)).  As a matter of fact, it is on one of
    the MIT T-shirt...
    
    re .13,
    
    And for a moment I thought the joke was on me...
    
    Eugene
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| 1052.15 | ..and don't forget the Holy Scriptures . | BTOVT::BOATENG_K | What d'U know that we don know? | Thu Aug 09 1990 19:22 | 8 | 
|  |     
    Book of Joshua -
    
    Book of Daniel -
    
    Book of Job -
    
    Song of Solomon -
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| 1052.16 | P.E.T. | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Thu Aug 09 1990 21:13 | 5 | 
|  |     P.E.T. - Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon.  Not
    just for parents, but a treasure-chest of skills and concepts that
    can help anyone in their interactions with others.
    
    				Steve
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| 1052.17 |  | HPSTEK::XIA | In my beginning is my end. | Sat Aug 18 1990 14:12 | 36 | 
|  |     re .15 
    
    Don't mean to offend anyone, just some third rate literary criticism of
    mine...
   
>    Book of Joshua -
 
No, I don't like the story there.  Too much violence with the
wholesale slaughter of Jerico.  Also the sun and the moon standing still
thing--good for science fictions, but not very effective with the genre.
   
>    Book of Daniel -
Don't quite like this one either... 
   
>    Book of Job -
 
Now this one is a masterpiece.  There are still things I find distasteful, 
but it is the only way to handle the moral dilemma.  Fatalism permeates 
the story that creates a sense of vastness only matched by that of 
T.S. Eliot's Four Quartets.
   
>    Song of Solomon -
Oh, I have read better poetry than that, but can't really say since I 
read them in English, and we all know poetry doesn't translate very well.
...
My most favorite Scripture:  Book of Job with the Sermon on the Mount run 
a close second.
My least favorite Scripture:  Revelation.  To put it mildly..., I don't 
know what the guy had for lunch...
Eugene
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| 1052.18 | When a Man's Fear Makes HimFun from Commitment | EDUHCI::ALLARD |  | Thu Aug 23 1990 16:32 | 1 | 
|  |     Men Who Can't Love  by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol
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| 1052.19 | Wow ! what a book ! | MILKWY::VUTRAN |  | Mon Aug 27 1990 12:02 | 7 | 
|  |     
    
       " What men know about Women " by Dr. Alan Francis.
    
              Times gives it  four Stars...
              Chronicle comments that that book SAYS IT ALL.
    
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| 1052.20 |  | QUIVER::STEFANI | Turn it on again | Mon Aug 27 1990 12:26 | 7 | 
|  |     re:  "What Men Know About Women"
    
    I heard it was 134 blank pages.  ;-)
    
    Just a little humor to brighten up an otherwise bleak Monday.
    
       - Larry
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| 1052.21 |  | DEC25::BRUNO | IRAQnophobia | Mon Aug 27 1990 12:42 | 8 | 
|  |     RE: .20
    
         I knew SOMEBODY would take that straight line.
    
         Actually, I think I'd like to read that.  Right now I'm stuck with
    "What this man THINKS he knows about Women".
    
                                        Greg
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| 1052.22 |  | WR1FOR::HOGGE_SK | Dragon Slaying...No Waiting! | Mon Aug 27 1990 14:45 | 8 | 
|  | 
    I've always wondered about the title of that book... 
    After I read it I thought the title should read 
    
    "What Men SHOULD Know About Women"
    (If they want to live to a ripe old age)
    
    Skip
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| 1052.23 | Living Alone | HOTJOB::GROUNDS | Mostly confused... | Tue Sep 10 1991 22:18 | 27 | 
|  | TITLE: Alone In America
AUTHOR: Louise Bernikow
ISBN: 0-06-015505-1
PUBLISHER: Harper and Row
    Chapter 1   Introduction
    Chapter 2   Adolescents and Addictions
    Chapter 3   Male Loneliness
    Chapter 4   Female Loneliness
    Chapter 5   Family Life
    Chapter 6   Widows and Widowers
    Chapter 7   The Work Connection
    Chapter 8   Out of Work
    Chapter 9   Communities
    I recently read this book.    It  is  a  well written and informative
book.  It does not attempt  to  solve  the  problem  of  loneliness,  but
informs the reader about the magnitude and  scope  of the problem and the
effects  it  has  on people of different backgrounds.    The  author  has
avoided the dry statistical approach in favor of telling  the  stories of
many different real people.  (One statistic that was mentioned:   between
1950 and 1980, the number of people living alone in America  increased by
385%.)
I recommend this to anyone.
Roger
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| 1052.24 | Relationship Imbalances | HOTJOB::GROUNDS | Mostly confused... | Tue Oct 29 1991 21:11 | 34 | 
|  | 
TITLE: THE PASSION PARADOX
AUTHOR: Dean C. Delis, Ph.D. with Cassandra Phillips
PUBLISHER: BANTAM
ISBN: 0-553-05788-X
FROM THE INSIDE COVER: 
    "What is  the passion paradox?  We've all been caught by it - some of
us, many times:   one partner in a relationship falls more deeply in love
than the other.   The  result is increasing desire and desperation in the
"one-down"  lover,  and  dissatifaction, often  mingled  with  guilt  and
withdrawal, in the "one-up".
PART I: The Painful Patterns That Create Unequal Love
    Chapter 1   Falling In Love
    Chapter 2   Balancing Acts
    Chapter 3   One-ups
    Chapter 4   The Commitment-Ambivalence Syndrome
    Chapter 5   One-downs
    Chapter 6   From Rock Bottom To Rebirth
Part II: How To Create An Equal Love That Lasts
    Chapter 7   Letting Go Of Old Solutions
    Chapter 8   Communicating
    Chapter 9   What One-downs Can Do
    Chapter 10  What One-ups Can Do
    Chapter 11  Seeking The Roots Of Imbalance
    Chapter 12  The Balanced Self
    Chapter 13  The One-down Personality
    Chapter 14  The One-up Personality
    Chapter 15  When To Leave
    Chapter 16  Embracing The Passion Paradox In Love And Marriage
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