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| 880.1 | any possible explanations? | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | The trigger doesn't pull the finger | Mon Oct 23 1989 10:09 | 8 |
| Is there a possibility that he got last minute orders that prevented him from
getting touch with you before he left? (I hate to think "that guy is a sh!t,"
so I always try to think of possibilities that would make the unreasonable
seem reasonable.)
I hope he's not such a sh!t.
The Doctah
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| 880.2 | | TOLKIN::GRANQUIST | | Mon Oct 23 1989 11:01 | 10 |
| I agree with .1, there's a good possibility that he had to leave
at the last minute and couldn't contact you. It happened to my son,
who was stationed at Ft. Ord, and had to go to Honduras. They went
to work in the morning, and were told to get their stuff together,
and not to call anyone, or tell anyone where they were headed.
Wait til you know for sure before you condem him, he might have
a good reason for not letting you know.
Nils
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| 880.3 | Might have had no choice | CIMBAD::WALTON | | Mon Oct 23 1989 12:42 | 8 |
| As a military wife, I agree that there is a distinct possibility
that he thought he was leaving on Monday. He could have very well
been told to report ASAP, no calls, no nothing. Don't be to ready
to condemn him right yet. Try to get in touch with him soon.
Good luck
Sue
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| 880.4 | You never know..... | MARKER::S_WILLIAMS | | Mon Oct 23 1989 14:57 | 17 |
| This situation has happened to me also. About 6 months ago, my boyfriend
was scheduled to go to the field and would be leaving the following week,
that next monday (at the time). We agreed that I would call him
the Wednesday or Thursday before he left (long distance relationship),
when I called nobody answered. I tried for two days with no answer.
I was worried that something happened to him and nobody had called
to tell me. Finally on the third day, his roommate informed me that
he had left the 2 or 3 nights before. I also felt foolish and
pretended I had forgotten. I was furious that he wasn't considerate
enough to let me know and all kinds of other things. It turns out
that it was a last minute decision and he couldn't call. Since
than I have learned not to automatically jump to conclusions and
he has learned to try and inform me of sudden changes as soon as
possible. I admit, at the time, some not so pleasant thoughts entered
my mind. I've since learned to trust a little more.
Sandie
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| 880.5 | | SA1794::SEABURYM | | Mon Oct 23 1989 15:16 | 23 |
|
Some people just can't seem to deal with "goodbye" situations.
Life in the military often seems to be a series of goodbyes to people
that you have gotten very close to.
A very close friend of mine in Alaska just sort of disappeared
when I was getting ready to leave for the airport. We had been together
through everything you can imagine and then some. I felt pretty hurt
when this happened.
I wrote a letter to him asking why he did this. He wrote back
that he, "Just couldn't face saying goodbye to another friend".
He told me he had gone out to the at jetty mouth of the harbor,
sat down and had a good cry for himself.
Sometimes saying goodbye to someone you love is extremely painful.
If you have to do it a lot, you begin to dread it.
Write or call and find out the what and why of this. Maybe he just
didn't have another goodbye left in him. It may sound strange, but
happens. It is not necessarily a case of being mean or not caring.
It just might be a case of hurting so bad inside that they really
don't know what to do.
Mike
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| 880.6 | | SOURCE::KISER | I'm not expendable, I'm not stupid, I'm not going | Mon Oct 23 1989 19:15 | 7 |
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I agree with .1 &.2 he robably had to go to the field at the
last minute. I was in the Army for 6 yrs, total and I can remeber
getting called out of nowhere to go into the field at 3 am. What
is his MOS if he's in some sort of emergency team he may have had
to go with no notice and no way to notify you, before going out.
I hope this has helped.
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