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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:	What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:	Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:	ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI

Created:	Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:	Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:	Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:	1327
Total number of notes:	28298

710.0. "wanted: INFO ON ONLY CHILD TYPES...." by BAUCIS::MATTHEWS (do it with rhythm, date a drummer.) Wed Mar 15 1989 14:55

    can someone point me to a note and or notes relating
    to THE ONLY CHILD*? OR any inputs or books on this?
    my *so and i are both only children, we get along so well,
    while other times (it gets to be like other failed relationships)
	i'm at the end almost....... for good!
    
    	thanks in advance
		
    	wendy o'

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710.1		WHYVAX::DELBALSO	I (spade) my (dog face)	`Thu Mar 16 1989 07:46`	6
	Although I'm not sure, there may be some topics on this in TERZA::PARENTING. While the discussions would probably be on the aspects of children without siblings rather than adults raised as only-children, there may be something of value for you. -Jack
710.2		CADSE::GLIDEWELL	Wow! It's The Abyss!	`Sun Mar 19 1989 15:25`	38
	> ... a note and or notes relating to THE ONLY CHILD? > OR any inputs or books on this? > my so and I are both only children, .... You might pose your question in TERZA::PSYCHOLOGY. The readership seems to come equipped with bibliographies. I know lots of research has been done on the relationship between birth-order, behavior, marriage patterns, and life patterns. Among the findings I remember ... Child number 1 is usually the most successful in career (where the success scale is academic achievement and income) Eldest child Smith tends to marry middle or younger sibling Brown. In life patterns, any child who was born 6 years of more after the previous sibling behaves as a eldest child. Middle children tend to be more self-contained and go their own way. I.e., they are less likely than an eldest or youngest to argue with a parent about a permission -- they will simply go do what they want. There was lots of info about "onlies" -- for instance, "onlies" have many of the characterists of an "eldest" plus some special characteristics -- but I forget everything else (probably lack of identification; I'm child 9 of 11). Also, there is a psychologist (perhaps psychiatrist?) in the Boston area named Dr. Treadway who concentrates on birth order in his personal and group therapy efforts. I saw him on a Boston TV interview program, discussing marriage and birth order relationships. You could probably just call his office and ask for a bibliography - he will have one if he does any teaching. If you find any terrific books or resources, could you post them here?
710.3	"The Birth Order Book"	SHARE::ODAY		`Thu Apr 06 1989 11:33`	12
	Hi I'm new to this 'conference-writing', etc. So hope this input is getting in the right place. Regarding the question about books on 'only' children. There is a pretty good book (I've only read parts of it) which is titled "THE BIRTH ORDER BOOK." Unfortunately I don't have the author's name with me, but I could get it if it's needed. While reading the book I decided to make a copy of the chapter entitled "Birth Order and Marriage." If anyone wants a copy of that, I'd be happy to make it and forward it to you. Just let me know. Joan