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    I would be willing to be part of a committee to arrange one at a
    club or in a function room.  We might be able to get something fairly
    reasonably, bring our own munchies and drink their booze.
    
    My apartment is small but we could sure get to know each other because
    we would be close. ;-)
    
    Joyce

    RE.0 You had snow ??! Lucky devil. :-) All we got was rain
    in western Mass. This end of the state is constantly being
    ignorwd by the $%&^ easterners. If you throw a party, please
    remember the poor souls who can't find their way east of
    Worcester. draw a good map. Thanks   Dana

    Re: .2
    
    Mass.?  Where's that?
    
    		Steve

    I don't have the time at the moment to actually take charge of
    arranging the whole shebang, but I'd be willing to help out with
    some aspect of it -- be a member of the steering committee, or whatever
    this is. (I'm good at food.)
    
    --bonnie

    Well, from last time, arranging the party wasn't really hard.  The
    most time I spent was maintaining the attendance list, plus some
    shopping.  (I won't have to do much this time - I still have most
    of the paper goods left over from the last party.)
    
    I'm not sure if a function hall would fit the bill - I felt a lot
    more comfortable in a house with varied places to sit, stand,
    talk, and several activities.  And last time we only had about 30
    people - I don't know if we'd get more this time (maybe yes, maybe
    no).
    
    The basic scheme of the last party was that everyone brought food
    and beverage - I supplied plates, cups, flatware, etc. (and asked
    for contributions towards same).  This worked well - though I think
    we ended up with a LOT more edibles than were consumed.  Also,
    liquor didn't seem too popular last time, which makes me leery of
    hiring a cash bar.
    
    But if we can't find a suitable volunteer, we may as well go
    the function room route.  I'd like to see the location be a bit
    closer to New Hampshire than last time, say in the Acton to Chelmsford
    region.
    
    				Steve

    
    I was thinking (I do that occasionaly), It'll be June in six weeks.
    How about going camping for a night.  We could play volleyball on
    the beach, have a great cookout and toast marshmellows while getting
    to know each other around a campfire.

    

    I think a camp-out is a bit more ambitious than I had in mind.
    Many of us don't have any of the requisite equipment, and it would
    be quite expensive.  I don't see why we can't do many of the same
    things in someone's back yard, for those who are inclined.
    
    Also, an overnight stay would be impossible for those of us with
    children who need a sitter.
    
    However, I would resist the temptation to have a terminal going
    during the party.   The intent is to socialize with the humans
    that are present - we can "note" anytime.  We didn't have a
    terminal at the last party and nobody complained (at least not
    to me).

    Does anyone perhaps live in an apartment or condo complex that
    has a recreation hall we can rent/use?  (Mine doesn't.)
    
    				Steve

    I have to wash my hair that night

    	And make it a week night....
    

I think that an outdoor picnic is a great idea!  I don't like the idea of a
function hall.

I have a six room apartment in Lowell, that I will volunteer.  It's fine
with me, but I'll warn you that it's not 'yuppified'... :-))

Jim.

Re:    Jim, party at his place in Lowell

Thanks, Jim.  That sounds good for the 30th.  I'll be there, probably
with my wife.  8-ish ?

    Mike Foley has graciously offered his place in Ayer, MA, equally
    convenient (or inconvenient!) to Maynard and Nashua.  Mike says
    that his house borders a pond, which will provide for swimming
    in the daytime, plus it sounds like lots of room for other
    activities.
    
    I have in mind the weekends of June 12-13 and June 19-20.  If
    you'd like to go, but any of those dates are bad for you, please
    send me mail (don't reply here).  If there's no clear objection,
    I'll shoot for June 12.  Seeing as I'll be at DECUS all next week,
    no decision will be made until at least the end of the following
    week.
    					Steve

    
    Thanks, Mike, for offering your place for the party!!
    
    RE: .15, Steve, the reason I am REPLYing to your proposed party
    dates here is for the benefit of others who may not check the
    calendar before responding.  I would prefer the weekend of June
    13 since June 21 is Father's Day and my sons are with me that
    weekend.
    
    I hope this helps other fathers choose with their kids in mind.
    
    					Joe

Hey Mikie,

	Don't forget to invite the neighbors...you know how much they
like a good bash....hehehehe

Bahama Mama

    RE: .17
    
    	Hee hee.. I have to tell them yet.. :-) ("Party? Oh yes!!) Private
    	joke folks.. .:-)
    
    	RE: "Mike, you don't know what you're in for!"
    
    	Oh come now Steve. Me, the ORIGINATOR of Noters Parties? The
    man who STARTED these things? I sure do know what I'm in for...
    :-)
    
    						mike

    Will there be lots of hugging and flowers at the party??? ;^)
    
    Jerri

    The votes are in, and the winner is... Saturday, June 13, at Mike
    Foley's place.  Being summertime, we'll have room enough for various
    activities, so feel free to bring your favorite activity (but nothing
    that would get Mike in trouble, please!)
    
    Like last time, I want to keep track of who thinks they will come,
    so Mike and I can plan accordingly.  So, if you are planning to
    come, send me mail (you can do it with SEND/AUTHOR right here)
    and tell me:
    
    	Your name plus names of guests (if known) or number of guests
    
    	Where you live and an indication if you are willing to drive
    	others to the party or would like a ride (this will undoubtedly
    	work out better than the separate conference I tried before).
    
    By sending me mail, you are not making a commitment, but please
    understand that if we get too many no-shows, Mike and I will
    be very disappointed, so let me know ASAP if your plans change.
    Likewise, if we get too many walk-ins, we may not have enough
    supplies to go around.
    
    This will be a BYOF-and-B (Bring Your Own Food-and-Beverage) affair.
    I expect we'll have a grill set up for grillable stuff, ice chests,
    etc.  An variety of main courses, salads, munchies, desserts, etc.
    is always appreciated.  I'll make up my [in]famous chocolate mousse.
    Please mark your containers, etc. plainly with your name so that
    you don't lose anything.  Disposable containers are always a good
    idea.
    
    If you have portable chairs or tables, please bring them along.
    I'll supply plates, forks, cups, napkins, etc. (still have a bunch
    from last time!)

    Please don't reply to this note with acknowledgements - send me
    mail.  I will periodically post the latest attendance list here.
    But if you have questions, you can ask them here or send me mail.
    
    I am not going to set a limit on attendance this time, but I do
    ask that everyone respond no later than Friday, June 5.  However,
    the sooner you reply, the better I can plan.  Also, your name in
    the attendance list may spark someone else's interest in attending!
    (I can think of a few cases offhand!)
    
    Directions to Mike's will be provided by mail to "registered" attendees
    one week before the event.

    And a final note.  I have added the keyword PARTY to this note,
    so you can find it easily by using the NOTES command:
    	DIR/KEY=PARTY
    
    This is going to be FUN!
    				Steve

    One additional point.  This party is primarily for the readers of
    HUMAN_RELATIONS and their friends/SOs/spouses/whatevers.  If you're
    reading this, you qualify.
    					Steve

Hmmm...  Good old Wildman Wall Eh? ;-)

And Danulf too... This is getting to be a habit...

I'll try to remember to bring some mead, and the Illuminati set... :-)

Jim...

    Re:25 Bonnie, does it matter?
    
             REK

    Kinda makes ya wonder.
               
    :-)
    
    - M

    Bonnie -- if we were coming, we'd be coming as a married couple,
    but my husband can't make it, so we're staying home as a married
    couple . . .
    
    --bonnie, sorry to let you down like this :) :)

    What does it matter whether married couples come or not?  I'm not
    married, but I'll be there with my SO.  I know of others on that
    list that will be there with their SO also.  Is being married a
    prerequiste? 
    
    Just_curious
    
    GLK

    I think Bonnie just felt a bit out-of-place among all the singles.
    But, as Gale mentions, there are several attending as couples.
    
    BTW, if there are "others not on that list that will be there",
    I sure hope they let me know.  I'd be willing to leave them off
    the published list if that's what they want.  If nothing else,
    just have someone send me the number of people attending and
    a contact.
    					Steve

    Steve or Mike...
    
    What time did you want people arriving???  Also, map will be
    sent out this week????
    
    Thx,
    
    GLK

    I'm figuring that we'll "open the doors" at 4. Directions will be
    sent out within the next week.
    					Steve

    Directions to the party are now "in the mail" to those on the list
    in the preceding note (including those who have asked me not to
    include them on the public list).  If you aren't on the list, and
    want to come, please send mail, and I'll send the directions
    promptly.  Let me know if you want to be a "phantom".
    
    It looks like a great crowd, and I'm really looking forward to it!
    See you there!
    				Steve

    A request for those who bring items (food, chairs, etc.).  PLEASE
    label everything clearly with your name.  This includes bowls,
    utensils, jars, etc.
    
    					Steve

    
    
    	Also, if it's gonna be a hot night temp wise then if a couple
    of people brought some fans it would be VERY appreciated!
    
    							mike

    Hello!!!! Hey what's up if it's a rainy day tomorrow???????
    Are we still on??????
    
    			Lenny

    
    
    	Yup.. I've cleared out alot of space in my place and Dickie
    	says that we probably won't get a downpour. Just muggy
    	weather and "occasional" showers..
    
    	Hey, if it rains then all that means is we have to all fit
    	in my place and "get close". :-)
    
    							mike

    Sure Mikie.....
    
    
    always looking for an excuse :-) :-) :-)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    
    
    A.

    
    
    	RE: .40
    
    	I haven't heard any complaints! :-)
    
    						mike

     re .41:
     
     Perhaps you're hard of hearing?
     
     --Mr Topaz

! HR_PARTY.DIS - Attendees: 48
!
QUARK::LIONEL            ! Steve Lionel (Nashua, NH)
AXEL::FOLEY              ! Mike Foley (Ayer, MA)
RDVAX::LAURENCE          ! Mary Kay Laurence
BAGELS::LANE             ! Debbi Lane + Guest
FELIX::KLEINBERGER       ! Gale Kleinberger
ENGINE::SILVERSTEIN      ! Bob Silverstein
PIGGY::LMCLAUGHLIN       ! Lynn McLaughlin
GCANYN::TATISTCHEFF      ! Lee Tatistcheff (Newton, MA - will drive)
NOVA::GROFF              ! Dana Groff (Nashua, NH)
MARCIE::JLAMOTTE         ! Joyce Lamotte (Boston, MA)
DOLPHN::MIKELISJ         ! Jim Mikelis (Worcester, MA)
OASIS2::WLIBBY           ! Wendy Libby (Methuen, MA)
NISYSI::KING             ! Rick King (Lunenberg, MA)
VINO::KSTEVENS           ! Ken Stevens (Worcester, MA)
IKE::BUCUVALAS           ! Lenny Bucuvalas + Guest (Lowell, MA)
STP::STRAIT              ! Jeff Strait (Hudson, MA - will drive)
BCSE::RYAN               ! Mike Ryan (Arlington, MA)
WMOIS::B_REINKE          ! Bonnie and Don Reinke
HPSCAD::WALL             ! Dave Wall (Worcester, MA)
VAXRT::CANNOY            ! Tamzen Cannoy
ERIS::CALLAS             ! Jon Callas
ARGUS::CORWIN            ! Jill Corwin
TLE::MEIER               ! Bill Meier
TONTO::EARLY             ! Bob Early + Guest
GNUVAX::QUIRIY           ! Christine Quiriy + Guest (Stow, MA)
WRMTWN::WHALEN           ! Rich Whalen (Worcester, MA)
YODA::BARANSKI           ! Jim Baranski (Concord, MA - will drive)
EUBIE::AUSTIN            ! Jean Austin
USMRW4::AFLOOD           ! Al Flood (Maynard, MA)
VINO::MCARLETON          ! Mike Carleton (Framingham, MA)
RSTS32::COFFLER          ! Jeff Coffler (Amherst, NH)
MORGAN::BARBER           ! Bob Barber (Westford, MA)
GOJIRA::PHILPOTT         ! Ian Philpott
NATASH::KELLY            ! Naomi Kelly
NPOGRP::BRODERICK        ! Karen and Joe Broderick (Norfolk, MA - will drive)
USFSHQ::RSKINNER         ! Robin Skinner + Guest (Marlboro, MA)
ANYWAY::GORDON           ! Doug Gordon + Guest (Waltham, MA)
SARAH::P_DAVIS           ! Peter Davis
TIGEMS::PENDER           ! Jo Ann Pender

    Kerry Faulkner       ! Ozone

    RE: .42
    
    
    	What?
    
    RE: .43
    
    	Geez Louise!
    
    RE: .44
    
    	Need some muzakic instruments. Glad chew be dere. 
    
    	I have an acoustic guitar and if anyone else wants to bring
    something feel free. 
    	
    					mike

    harp
    
    shall I bring moi base 
    trumpet?
    afrikan thumb harp?
    

    Well, the third HUMAN_RELATIONS party is history, and what GREAT
    history it will be.  We had at least 38 noters and guests, and
    everybody seemed to have a great time.  The thunderstorm held off
    just long enough for us to cook our dinners, and before that the
    weather was nice enough that some people went for a dip in the pond
    behind Mike's place.
    
    It was a delightful experience to meet so many noters whom I had
    only known by node and username before, and we had many interesting
    and thought-provoking discussions on relationships and other topics.
    Thankfully, work-related talk was sparse.  Later in the evening
    there was impromptu dancing inside.
    
    I couldn't help but get the feeling that the H_R noters are caring
    and sensitive people, and this reaction was echoed by others there.
    Many of us shared our experiences and found that we had a lot in
    common with our fellow noters.  I wouldn't be surprised to learn
    that some new close friendships were created this evening.
    
    Extra special super-wow thanks go to Mike Foley, who actually INVITED
    some 40-odd people to tramp mud into his house!  (Gee, Mike, can
    we do this at your place again?)
    
    My only regret is that some noters could not attend.  We missed
    you, and hope to see you next time.  I've attached a list of the
    names I got of noters and guests, but I know I missed the names
    of at least a few guests. (I hope I didn't miss any noters!)

    Thank you ALL - it was great!
    					Steve

Attendees:
    
Steve Lionel 
Mike Foley 
Gale Kleinberger
Bob Silverstein
Lynn McLaughlin
Lee Tatistcheff 
Joyce Lamotte 
Jim Mikelis 
Wendy Libby 
Rick King 
Lenny Bucuvalas 
Jeff Strait 
Mike Ryan 
Bonnie and Don Reinke
Dave Wall 
Tamzen Cannoy
Jon Callas
Jill Corwin
Bill Meier
Bob Early 
Christine Quiriy 
Rich Whalen 
Mike Carleton 
Jeff Coffler 
Ian Philpott
Karen and Joe Broderick 
Robin Skinner 
Doug Gordon 
Peter Davis
Jo Ann Pender
Ann Hakim
Alison Szklacz
Bill Rodriguez
Jym Dyer
Ann Hakim
Kerry Faulkner

    RE: .47
    
    	I thought I saw Ann Hakim there twice.. :-) 
    
    	I hope everyone had a good time.. I know I did (barring a few
    moments)! It was nice to see a bunch of friends and meet some
    new people. (Aren't you glad I started these noters parties a long
    time ago?? :-)) 
    
    	Thanks to everyone who cleaned up after the festivities.. Other
    than the stupid dog across the road tearing into a bag, there was
    little mess to clean up.
    
    	As far as having another one at my place.. well.. I was thinking
    of having a noters noters party in July.. Only this time I think
    I'll stay away from Bermuda. [:-)]
    
    	Next party don't ANYONE bring the potato chips! I have TONS!
    
    				Recovering nicely,
    
 	   						mike
	

    Re: Ann Hakim
    
    Oops - well, my vision does go blurry at times.
    
    			Steve

    amphibiods from the deep......

    Blurry at times :-).. with the stuff you guys were drinking I could
    understand [:-)] I will NEVER forget Mike's assistance on the phone.. 
    thanks Mike....
    
    Sorry for leaving so early... when we got home, the baby's temperature
    had gotten down to 102 degrees, Bob and I put her to bed after some
    ice cream and tylenol, and this morning the doctor took a look at 
    her....  it was what I had feared... another ear infection :-(
    
    but as for another party....  I'd like one soon as I could stay
    and meet some people....  (and if you need a place, my yard is
    big)...
    
    Gale 

    YES, it was a GREAT time!  I want to add my thanks to Mike for hosting the
    festivities and to Steve for coordinating the whole thing.

    Attending the party was another "first" for me.  I have never attended
    a gathering where I didn't know a soul.  This was a big step for
    me and I'm glad I took the risk because I now feel I have some new 
    friends.  Perhaps I will be less inhibited about contributing to
    this file. 

    I am sorry that I had to leave to attend another party (the Hawiian Luau
    was nowhere near as much fun). 

    Glad to know you recovered Mike we were worried about you for awhile!

    Keep smilin'

    Wendy

    

    I tried to meet as many people as I could, but, judging from that
    list, I still missed a few.  Oh well, we'll just have to do it again.
    
    Thank you all for being human, and for wanting to relate.  Special
    thanks to Mike and Steve for organizing the event, and especially
    to Mike, who had two Ferraris totalled among the other damage.
    
    -pd

    Re: .53
    
    Let's not forget the Mercedes that suffered similar damage!  What
    a wild party!  I hope the insurance covers everything!
    
    I think what was perhaps the wierdest thing for me was the conversation
    I had with Lee Tatistcheff.  She was going around introducing herself
    and explaining what her name "looks like" (in contrast to how it
    is pronounced).  The exchange went something like this:
    
    	Me:  Well, I knew how to pronounce your name because there was
    	     a math teacher at my high school with that name.
    
    	Lee: Oh, that was my dad!
    
    And so it was.  Yes, folks, I met Lee some umpteen years ago at
    the prep school I attended.  She was all of nine then, and neither
    of us really remembers, but she would have been at the dinner table
    with her father, and I would have been there too at times, so I
    must have seen her then.  Small world!  Of course, since then Lee
    has certainly grown up!  (And so have I, I think.)  Isn't the 
    perspective of time wonderful!  (Makes me feel old....)
    
    I also have to mention the delicious food brought by many people.
    I hope I don't insult some by not mentioning their contributions,
    but Lenny Bucuvalas's spanakopita (sp?  it's Greek spinach pastry
    pie) was delightful, and so were Wendy Libby's brownies.  I don't
    know who brought the pasta salad, but it was yummy too.
    
    Watching the storm come in over the pond was an experience not
    to be missed...
    
    					Steve

    Here's another testimonial to a great party!! Thanks Mike and Steve
    for getting it together. 
    
    
    * Hey Mickey*....went to a clambake on Sunday and ran into a friend
    who's sailing the Bermuda race this week. He's smugglin' back a
    case of the "Black Gold"....interested?!?!?! :-) :-)
    
    Ann....whom there should have been two of...maybe one would have
    convinced her to quit while she was still ahead !! ;-)

    Mike old chap....you saw Ann in quad!!!
    
    Samurai Writer
    

    Ann, I though you had developed an allergic reaction to Bermuda
    Sailing?!?!?!?!!!!! ;-) ......... 
    
    You know it's an incredible gas to meet people you have never seen
    before yet you know them fairly well due to the notes conferences.
    
    How many of you had images of what different sur-names (ie Samurai
    Writer)  and their owners would look like???? 
    
    Steve .... I had pictured you as someone just out of Studio 54,
    complete with silks satins and gold chains and very "tanned"......
    
    Mikie......for some reason I had pictured you as being in your 40's
    drivingf a mercedes and dressing in Italian silk suits.....
    
    Kerry ...... HUNTER THOMPSON MOVE OVER!!!!!!!!! ;-)
    
    The people I met weere all great! The personalities seemed to mesh
    well and soon the party developed its own personality.....everyone
    seemed to compliment everyone! 
    
    So tell me......how did you all envision Samurai Writer.......
    Please.....go easy on me Bermuda gang!
    
    			:-)
    
    Samurai Writer AKA Lenny

    
    	40's? Silk suits? Mercedes??? That's a BIG difference from 25,
    jeans, and a truck!!
    
    	:-)
    
    							mike

    I thoroughly enjoyed it. It was great meeting all the folks there (or
    at least as many as I got to talk to, I lost track after a while - must
    have had too many Coca-Colas and gone on a caffeine high :-)
    
    Minor high spots were the appearance of the attack pooch, and the
    spectacular storm. Less memorable high spot was the case of the exploding
    Mercedes rear window (Static electric dielectric stress in the laminates?)
    
    I'd have entered this yesterday but I spent five hours in the emergency
    room at Nashua Memorial hospital having my insect bites treated !
    (despite which I'd go again - only next time perhaps a bee keepers net
    suit and gloves would be a better idea than a rain suit).
    
    /. Ian .\

    
    .58  not jeans - jams (which seemed to need a double knot)
    

    RE: .60
    
    	I stand corrected.. Jams it was.. :-)
    
	    					mike

    Re: .57
    
    Lenny - YOU looked like your "picture" of me!  I wouldn't tan if
    you sprayed brown paint on me!
    
    					Steve

    
    It sure sounds like you all had a great time!  Wish I could have
    been there too!  Unfortunatley I'm a thousand or 2 miles away from
    you.  Maybe when I come back for a visit...............
    Anyway, someone mentioned that someone brought spanakopita!?
    Is that anything like skitchata?  If so I sure would like the 
    recipe!  Even if its not the same, I'd like the recipe anyway!
    PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Happy partying!
    
    K. in Colorado
    

    Darn it, now I deeply regret my absence. An afternoon appointment
    an an evening with Gordon Lightfoot made it impossible to attend.
    Sounds *great* tho'. Maybe the next time around, I'll make the
    trip from the boonies of western Mass. Happy for y'all, Dana.

    My apoligizies and regrets for missing it...  Sometimes life gets
    complicated...
    
    Jim YODA::BARANSKI