Conference quark::human_relations-v1

154.0. "TIPS FOR LONGEVITY" by USMRM2::SWHITTICK () Thu Nov 20 1986 17:13

    Perhaps my two cents can add to many voices of married - and- loving
    it  testimonials.  Ingredients? one - like your mate! Yes, "like",
    not just "love"  The initial attractions (physical, emotional, idi-
    osyncracies, etc.) must continue to a source of amusement, enchantment,
    and a "turn on". Don't permit the usual to become too commonplace
    in your esteem.  We, unfortunately live in a world of constant change,
    newness, and variety, that there is often an expectation for love
    and marriage to be just as "exciting".  Two - Express yourself!
    Being open and truthful is good, but remember to be complimentary,
    we all need to hear something good, once in a while.  Express your
    fears, joys, likes, fantasies - all without fear that such will
    make you vulnerable - on the contrary, it builds trust.  Three -
    for Pete's sake have empathy!  Put yourself in your partner's place.
    Criticize yourself, from his/her point of view.  You know you can't
    always be right, verbalize it!! 
    
    Just some thoughts from 14 years and going strong!
    Stoney