| Title: | What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'? |
| Notice: | Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS |
| Moderator: | ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI |
| Created: | Fri May 09 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Wed Jun 26 1996 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1327 |
| Total number of notes: | 28298 |
I enjoyed what Ray had to say and I feel bad that he's in the
pits currently because he has a lot of good ideas! For me, it depends
on the root of why I'm feeling low as to the type of medicine I
apply. For instance, if it's a short or temporary problem, I try
to invent ways to cheer myself up. For instance, I may play certain
music while cooking or writing a letter. Or I may run a hot bath
and phone a good friend for company. I have a few favorite books
on friendship and lifestyle issues that often help. Sometimes going
out for a nice meal can perk up your spirits, as well. It is very
individualistic as I believe Ray pointed out.
Sometimes I start with one of the above and notice that it doesn't
do the trick. Then I have to use methods that are more soothing
and one of those may be a day trip to the ocean. Or I may spend
some time with my nieces - surprisingly enough they have a way of
simplifying adult problems really quickly. I also enjoy planning
a special event with one of my friends - it gives me a temporary
lift until I get to see them. Of course I've made plans with the
most appropriate friend for the problem at hand. (Ever notice that
some of your friends are good for certain ailments? - I have)
And then there's the times I have no one to go to and/or the
above methods fail to soothe me. In these time I have learned to be
my own best friend. This is when I face my humanity and failings
and decide that it's "okay" to feel the way I do. I end up going
on with my life in spite of my feelings or my fears or my problems.
These low periods are difficult for me to share with anyone because
I don't particularly want people to see me that way. I also don't
expect them to be able to comfort me. I believe there are some
issues that we must face alone that even the best approaches/people
can't cure.
I'd be interested in others' ideas on the matter ... Christy
of myself.
ourselves.
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| 122.2 | BIZET::MAHONEY | Tue Oct 28 1986 16:43 | 16 | ||
I do not mean to turn this into the religion.note file but I usually talk to God. Some how knowing God is there to listen and help makes things a little better for me. I talk to God asking for help and advice and God usually gives it to me in someway. Whether it is a friend who suddenly stops by or just the quietness of the moment. The answer is there I just have to listen. Sometimes it is to go out into the world shopping or seeing a movie. Other times staying home and reading a good book or listening to music. It changes but the cure is usually there if you just open your heart and listen. Brian | |||||
| 122.3 | Let's get physical! | NOVA::BNELSON | The Stars My Destination | Tue Oct 28 1986 17:06 | 24 |
I think that a lot of times when I really need a friend there is some amount of stress. Working under the assumption that no one is around to talk to, I generally need some way to relieve this stress. What I tend to enjoy is some sort of physical activity. Going for a nice long bike ride does a couple things: by exerting myself, I find that the stress goes away ( or at least isn't as bad ); also, I often find some solutions to my problem simply because I'm not concentrating on it full time. ( I find that I'm more likely to find solutions when I'm _not_ thinking about something -- weird! ) Reading and listening to music are two of my favorite "quiet" pasttimes, but they generally don't help alot if there's any amount of stress involved. I need *activity*! But, we're all different so the ways in which we approach things most likely will be different too. You've just got to find something which works for you. Brian | |||||
| 122.4 | Eat something ummmmmmm good! | MMO01::PNELSON | Longing for Topeka | Tue Oct 28 1986 19:00 | 1 |
| 122.5 | Not Alone... | NFL::GIRARD | Wed Oct 29 1986 18:36 | 5 | |
There are some who can do it by themselves,
There are others who need more,
But when it happens to someone as nice as .0,
I know it is I who must do more!
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| 122.6 | Here's my panacea.. | HENRY8::BULLOCK | Jane, no heavy breathers, please | Thu Jan 15 1987 14:20 | 12 |
I just saw this note and couldn't resist--even tho it's months later..
When I feel that way, NOTHING does it like an old movie! Usually
a scary one is best, or one of those Fred Astaire extravaganzas.
I get into my bathrobe, get a cup of coffee, turn the movie on,
and thumb my nose at the outside world! Usually when the movie's
over I get up and do something--or, if it's a *really* bad day,
I'll sit in for another movie...and another coffee...and make some
spaghetti.
Jane
Sucker for Old Movies--Anytime
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